Who is Alberta?

I’m an author and speaker on “The Effect of Alcoholism on the Whole Family.” After losing my husband, Richard Lopes, and an adult daughter, Lori Cahill, from their addiction, I wanted to share the mistakes made with handling the enabling, fighting, abuse, and confusion within the family behind closed doors. My knowledge is more accurate with how innocently family, friends, and loved ones bring the substance abuser deeper into their addiction. My published books are more about lessons, not memoirs. The strongest belief is that we need to listen to each other more than doing the accusing, yelling, punishing, and threats to the sick with this disease. “No one learns from doing all the talking,” she says. It’s a family disease that effects both the drinker and the sober family member. It’s a serious statement that can lead to both sides becoming mentally and physically disabled. Published Books “Someone Stop This Merry-Go-Round: An Alcoholic Family in Crisis” which was nominated for the “Editor’s Choice Award” and the “Dan Poynter’s Global ebook Award 2011. It’s about losing Richard from his years of alcohol abuse. The sequel to this tragedy is, “Please, God, Not Two: This Killer Called Alcoholism”, following Lori’s, death from alcohol and drugs. These books have important information, not only to family members, but the alcoholic and drug user,

MEDIA

I’ve appeared on numerous radio shows, blogs radio, podcasts, cable television, and interviewed in newspapers. My speaking appearance have reached Sheriff Thomas Hodgson from the Dartmouth Correctional Jail in Dartmouth, Massachusetts to speak to the men and women inmates. I’m open to any invite which has been at halfway homes, rehabilitation centers, court-ordered locations, women’s organizations. I speak in public places also.

My newest book is The Mindset of the Alcoholic and Addict: 35 Americans and Canadians Share Their Struggle with Alcohol and Drugs. My agent, Nancy Rosenfeld, from AAAUnlimited Books, is looking for publishers to believe this book is needed as added educational information for counselors, doctors, and family members to read exactly how the substance abusers thinks, what they need, what turns them away from professional help, and what they believes works and doesn’t in a recovery program.

UPCOMING BOOKS:

My first women’s historical fictional, The Rusty Years; The Remembrance of Being Young, is completed along with its sequel The Rusty Years: Secrets Revealed. It’s ready for print when I have a publisher.

At the moment, A Sample of Heaven: Our Last Call, is being reveiwed by a publisher. It’s my experience going on a ten-day pilgrimage to Medjugorje to witness six visionaries having apparitions with Our Lady since 1981. Thirty-nine years later, they are still seeing Her. Medjugorje is a tiny, remote village in Bosnia.

Working Book in Progress

My writing is concentrated now on the story of my father, Brigadier General, Albert L. Gramm, one of the commanding officers for the 26th Yankee Division during WWII fighting in Metz, Lorraine, and The Battle of the Bulge to name a few locations with war.

HER HOBBIES

I wish there was time to have a hobby! I’m excited to get a book read in-between writing, attending speaking engagements, book signing, running writer’s workshops, and keeping up with my social media friends. I’m also a co-founder to Authors Without Borders (www.awb6.com) where the four women authors who support each other with good or bad news. I’m a writer for The Cape Cod Today Blog.

With the Corona Virus, my services have all stopped. I’m taking advance of the time to contact publishers and finishing my latest books. My books can be purchased at http://www.amazon.com/author/albertasequeira. I love hearing from readers and followers. Email alberta.sequeira@gmail.com

MY PRIVATE LIFE:

I live in Dartmouth, Massachusetts with my husband, Al. We have 6 grown-kids between us. Were lost my daughter, Lori at 39 years of age from her alcohol and drug abuse. There will always be a gap. We have no pets, did that during our younger years, but have 10 grandkids and six great-grandkids. Yikes! Where did the years go? My joy comes from family, friends, readers, speaking to substance abusers, and having a day to relax with Al. Lucky we enjoy each other with being homebound from the virus.

I love to write, write, and write some more! Getting a taste of my first fictional will have me dreaming up more character. Thanks for your support.

Alberta Sequeira

Our Lives in Crisis

Come behind closed doors to the true story with the reality of alcohol abuse effecting the whole family. Too much enabling caused the conflicts, confusion, and fear leading up to physical abuse. Two young daughters witness scene that they never should have growing up. It’s the combination of loving the alcoholic and hating him.

Please, God, Not Two: This Killer Called Alcoholism is the sequel. It follows the silent suffering after the author loses her husband at forty-five years of age from his alcohol abuse to have the demon return for her daughter, Lori Cahill.
After three rehab stays, Lori loses her battle on November 22, 2006 at thirty-nine. She had been put to rest along side her father at the St. Patrick Cemetery in Somerset, MA. 
The author’s talks given publicly and behind closed doors to the alcoholics and drug addicts are in this memoir without holding back the reality of this disease with no one coming out a winner. 

Both books are in paperback and Kindle. They are free for a few months in Kindle Select. Go too http://www.amazon.com/author/albertasequeira

Thank you,

Alberta Sequeira

alberta.sequeira@gmail.com

INTERVIEW WITH SHERIFF THOMAS HODGSON

This is my interview with Sheriff Thomas Hodgson from The Bristol County Correctional office at 400 Faunce Corner, North Dartmouth, Massachusetts. The first half hour is about my life with the last half hour talking to the women inmates at the jail.  https://vimeo.com/254517198 to share.

I can be reached at: alberta.sequeira@gmail.com
My website for the addicted with choices is: www.albertasequeira.wordpress.com
For my writers and followers to become authors: www.albertasequeira.org

I Want Your Stories!

ENABLING

My main goal, since I started this website, was to reach out and try to understand the world of substance abuse. My agent is looking for a publisher who believes in my newest book The Mindset of the Alcoholic and Addict. It has 34 alcoholics and addicts from the USA and Canada who opened up to share their lives living with the struggle to overcome their habit getting sober.

I want to open my website up to give you a chance to tell your story and help others. You don’t have to give your name. It’s not about WHO is writing it but the person offering their silent suffering.

What do you need from family? What do you want us to do to help? What are we doing wrong? It’s the same message in my upcoming book. I want others to turn to this site as a means of sharing, not feeling alone, and the desire to help others. This is your voice.

I look forward to the ones wanting to share insight for ALL of us to understand what happens with some not wanting to stop and get sober, and others who seriously can’t stop on their own.

Again, I look forward to having your short story on my website or just your advice to family or other substance abusers.

Send info to alberta.sequeira@gmail.com.

Alberta Sequeira

A New Book in the Making

author with writing

There is no picture as of yet.  In February 2020, I was lucky to get an agent, Nancy Rosenfeld, owner and publisher of the AAABooksUnlimited.com.  The Book Proposal was done by David Tabasky from NY.  The 60-page proposal has been sent out to 15 publishers.

The title is The Mindset of the Alcoholic and Addict. It’s written by 34 substance abusers from all walks of life living in the USA and Canada.  They are telling doctors, counselors, other alcoholics and drug users, family members, and the public what they feel works and doesn’t in their recovery programs.  They open up with enabling them so long that they go deeper into their addiction.  They’re frank with what we’re doing wrong to help them.

SYNOPSIS

In order to make this book authentic and genuine, I went straight to the source––the alcohol and drug users who tell their stories here––raw and real––for all to see. These men and women, who come from all walks of life, share their thoughts and feelings on how they ended up addicted, why they believe recovery programs do and do not work, and how they eventually managed to give up their addictions and turn their lives around. They also provide advice to family members on what they need and how they can best help.

I am one of the family members, after losing my first husband and my adult daughter to the tragedy of addiction. Ever since their deaths, I have been plagued with questions.

What were they thinking and feeling and needing?

Why did they do it?

Why can some recover while others die?

It took me many years to figure out that I couldn’t save my loved ones and even longer to discover the adverse effects this trauma was having on me. I came to realize that I had to do whatever I could to help others in my position to find their path to healing without as much turmoil and suffering as I experienced.

I began my path to learning all I could about this disease, beginning with the three main reasons why addiction begins: genetics, peer pressure, and childhood trauma. This combination of neurological, sociological and psychological triggers provided me with the knowledge that led me to acceptance and peace of mind.

The Mindset of an Addict is my contribution to a larger effort we must make as a society to cure the ills of addiction––for the addicts and those who love them.

Think about it. We all know someone with an alcohol and/or drug problem. The data is staggering and shows no signs of concrete improvement. Sadly, there is a growing audience for a book on this subject and I know from first-hand experience how much I wish a book like this had existed years ago when I needed it most.

I’ll try to add information about the contents.

Alberta Sequeira

The Massachusetts Substance Use Hotline

Why the Helpline

The Helpline is the only statewide, public resource for finding substance use treatment, recovery, and problem gambling services. Helpline services are free and confidential. Our caring, trained Specialists will help you understand the treatment system and your options.

Recovery is possible.

Seeking treatment and support is the first step toward recovery. Being in recovery means a life of greater freedom and possibility.

Let us help you take a step toward recovery. Hope is here.

800.327.5050

Thanks!
Alberta

Opioid Overdose Crisis

https://www.drugabuse.gov/drug-topics/opioids/opioid-overdose-crisis

2018 data shows that every day, 128 people in the United States die after overdosing on opioids.1 The misuse of and addiction to opioids—including prescription pain relieversheroin, and synthetic opioids such as fentanyl—is a serious national crisis that affects public health as well as social and economic welfare. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention estimates that the total “economic burden” of prescription opioid misuse alone in the United States is $78.5 billion a year, including the costs of healthcare, lost productivity, addiction treatment, and criminal justice involvement.2

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