Substance Abuse Awareness Coach

ALBERTA SEQUEIRA

Author, Speaker, and Instructor for Writer’s Workshops

Contact Email: alberta.sequeira@gmail.com

I’m available to speak to your patients privately or to any organization, association, club, or any location needing an honest talk to the substance abuser, the family member or anyone who loves the person suffering from their addiction. I welcome your email for a quote.

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Endorsements from Women and Men Inmates 

at the Bristol County Corrections in Dartmouth, MA

*****Names are withheld from Prisons.

Thank You so much.  May God always bless you and everyone else you hold close to your heart.

Very touching. Touched home. Almost cried.

Mrs. Sequeira was very clear and impacted my mental and recovery for the better and can relate to her whole story ad especially the things at home she went through with family.

Came late but from what I heard, her message at the end was good.

I thought the presentation was great. Her words hit me in the heart and made me take a long hard look at my own situation. Thank you for sharing your experience.

She is well spoken and hits home. 

It was an amazing presentation and a good speech. Thank You!

It was a pleasure. Thanks for coming.

It was a pleasure to hear about these things from a mother/wife perspective.

Endorsements for Speaking Engagements

Ms. Sequeira shared her story of losing her husband and especially her daughter, Lori, at the “Joy of Providence prayer breakfast” at the Providence Marriott Hotel in Rhode Island.  We are the Magnificat, a Catholic Women’s Ministry of Providence.  Her speech was beautiful, powerful and a moving story that touched so many of us today.Louise, Margo, Pat, Arlene and Midge ~ The Magnificat Service Team

Ms. Sequeira is a very inspiring speaker, who shared her heartfelt and painful journey of faith and renewal as she dealt with the overwhelming and disastrous effects of alcoholism on her whole family.  Alberta was a featured speaker at our Magnificat, “Joy of Boston prayer Breakfast.” We are an international interdenominational Catholic Ministry.  Ms. Sequeira was recommended to us by the Rhode Island Chapter of the Magnificat after she had spoken at their location. ~ Patricia J. Waterman, Medway, MA.

Alberta’s faith and family support, especially from her husband, Al, gives her the strength to not only write to educate readers but she has become a public speaker about this terrifying, deadly disease.  Alberta and her immediate and extended family believe that communication, and knowledge about this disease, persistency and love are essential in the fight against alcoholism. ~ Cheryl A. Heindrichs

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Alberta Sequeira’s Books

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Someone Stop This Merry-Go-Round: An Alcoholic Family in Crisis by Alberta H. Sequeira

Someone Stop This Merry-Go-Round is a heartfelt memoir of a woman’s life living with and losing a husband to alcoholism. Slowly their happy life as a secure family with their two daughters started to fall into tiny pieces.

Kindle:
https://www.amazon.com/Someone-Stop-This-Merry-Go-Round-Alcoholic-ebook/dp/B011C6IX68/ref=tmm_kin_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=

Please, God, Not Two: This Killer Called Alcoholism by Alberta H. Sequeira

Please, God, Not Two is the sequel to Someone Stop This Merry-Go-Round. It follows the silent suffering after a woman married loses her husband, Richard Lopes of North Dighton, Massachusetts, in 1985 at forty-five years of age from his alcohol abuse.

She had ignored the same familiar signs with her daughter, Lori Cahill. It wasn’t until the last two years of her life that family became aware of her addiction and becoming bulimic.

The author’s talks given publicly and behind closed doors to the alcoholics and drug addicts are in this memoir without holding back the reality of this disease with no one coming out a winner.We can’t force our loved ones to get help. All our begging, crying, and pleading won’t always work. They have to want it themselves; we can only try to support them.

Amazon Print:
https://www.amazon.com/Please-God-Not-Two-Alcoholism/dp/1514106612/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=

Kindle:
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B011ELJ5GI/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_hsch_vapi_tkin_p1_i0

Message From Alberta H. Sequeira: Hello everyone.I wrote two serious books on Alcohol and drug abuse. My reason was from losing a husband and grown daughter to their addiction. I wanted to share what I should have done better after regaining knowledge on this topic.

Both books show my actions and what I should have done. The sequel Please, God, Not Two, gives my talks behind closed doors to the substance abuse

Amazon Author’s Page:
https://www.amazon.com/Alberta-H.-Sequeira/e/B0036ULRL2

Professional Website/Blog:
www.albertasequeira.wordpress.com

Website for Writers and Authors:
www.albertasequeira.org

Speaking Engagements:
alberta.sequeira@gmail.com

Twitter:
http://twitter.com/albertasequeira

Everyone Makes Money but the Author

I believe in this saying more and more as time passes. When I first became an author in 2006, I read you had to have a great platform to get the attention of agents and publisher, especially traditional. 
I worked hard through the years to push myself from shyness in front of an audience with knee-shaking speaking engagements. My ambition was strong because I believed, after losing a husband and daughter from substance abuse, it was a worldwide topic. The death rate was not going down. 
I felt the addict had to hear what the family members fear and their pain. It wasn’t that they hated their loved ones, they hated the disease. The family has to listen to what the addict wants.  
I listened for years to Steve Harrison, who runs free telephone training program helping authors to advance in marketing, seminars offered with top TV producers, and wonderful personnel to get you there. I felt strongly my topic would go anywhere with their help. I’d reach a huge audience. I wanted to go to one of his seminars but couldn’t come up with $5,000. That’s not including the hotel and travel. Steve offered many important people to help an author be seen on television or anywhere else. Another event I had to “pay” for to move ahead with no money for it or guarantees. But everyone else would walk away with money whether I made it or not. 
Steven Harrison explained the difference between a poor author and a rich one. The talk really hit me. The poor author did no more than depend on book signing. The rich one pushed ahead to be seen. I spoke in halfway homes, substance abuse rehabs, court-ordered programs, jails, libraries, bookstores, U Mass in Boston, Massachusetts; wherever I could to help substance abusers and their family members.
At first many locations wanted me to talk at their events claiming not having money in their budgets to pay me. I wanted to get known. After awhile, there was no money of my own to pay for my books to sell at events, put on workshops, or hold other talks.  
I went from a regular author to a three-time nominated author with reviews with Publisher Weekly. Even then, I had to “pay” for the review. Nothing developed with the great write-ups, interviews in newspapers, radio blogs, or cable television appearances. My speaking engagements started to sell books and then the pandemic arrived.
After 14 years, I became a co-founder to Authors Without Borders (www.awb6.com). We’re a great group of four women authors helping other authors and writers to avoid the mistakes we faced climbing up the ladder. I was a producer, director, and co-host to the NBTV-95 Cable TV out of New Bedford for five years, a writer for seven years on substance abuse with the Cape Cod Today blog. I thought I just might become an author with a great platform.
I wrote about my family life with a husband and two daughters behind closed doors during my young years of marriage in Someone Stop This Merry-Go-Round; An Alcoholic Family in Crisis. I lost my husband, Richard Lopes, of Dighton, Massachusetts at the VA Hospital in Providence, Rhode Island from cirrhosis of the liver when he was only forty-five years of age. 
I never thought the demon would return and take my daughter, Lori (Lopes) Cahill of Dighton at the age of thirty-nine from the same worldwide problem of alcohol and drug abused. I wrote my heart out with tears in the sequel, Please, God, Not Two: This Killer Called Alcoholism. 
The two books are not just memories. I have my speaking engagements behind closed doors to private events in the sequel. In the story of Richard, I tell how I would have handled each event differently if it were today. They are books of lessons.
They are buried together at the St. Patrick Cemetery in Somerset, Massachusetts. There I pray to Richard and Lori, wishing I could change my actions for the better now that I have grown in education on the topic. I would have handled everything with more love and caring than with yelling, blaming, threats, fights, and pulling our poor daughters into adult conflict that they never should have endured. 
Like all parents who lost children from addiction, we suffer from the agonizing questions, “what if I, could I have, why didn’t I,” or most of all for me the question, “what are we all doing wrong not being able to save our loved ones from this disease that is destroying lives?” What do they need from us? 
From there I did research to get into the minds of the addicted; no guessing just the raw, honest answers of what they feel family can do to help them desire professional help. I have 34 contributors from the United States and Canada who have opened their hearts to tell us. I wrote The Mindset of the Alcoholic and Drug Addict; Healing Shattered Lives.
After fourteen years having found an agent for the book, she claimed within the a year that the pandemic stopped her from finding a traditional publisher. I returned writing query letters to agents and publishers. No one knows more about substance abuse than the person who has lived through the suffering and pain watching a loved one slowly kill themselves.  
I’ve had six traditional publishers offer to represent me. For some reason, my book didn’t fall under their traditional side but they “all” offered self-publishing which ran between $6,000 to $14,000, especially if you wanted a “top” traditional publisher. Again, they win whether my book made it or not. One well-known traditional publisher would have taken my book if I was an “International speaker.” Being a professional speaker didn’t count. 
It’s hard for an author to push forward. Any author can get published within days on Amazon. I wanted a publisher to believe in this book as myself, not to drown in money but to see a smile on one addict’s face showing they have hope after my talk. I wanted family members to see the points I listed for working together with communication. The hope to others if The Mindset of the Alcoholic and Drug Addict found it’s way in bookstores, schools, universities, class assignments, homework, a demanded topic in education, in other countries, and maybe see a small change going in the right direction.  
If it’s a family disease, let’s start treating it that way. Treat the person who is struggling with addiction. Why are they hooked on addiction? What emotional trauma caused them to turn into numbness? Help them before finding treatment for the disease with pills. 

Alberta Sequeira
http://www.albertasequeira.wordpress.com
alberta.sequeira@albertasequeira
Books available at http://www.amazon.com/author/albertasequeira

The Mindset of the Alcoholic and Drug Addict

alberta.sequeira@gmail.com

Many of us live on dreams and hopes that what we want to accomplish will. That isn’t reality. Some can but not often. My desire to get my book The Mindset of the Alcoholic and Drug Addict published and out to the public is a struggle. What do they say, the things you had to work the hardest for was the most rewarding?

With this topic being a worldwide problem, I assumed publishers and agents would want to help get the book out to everyone. They say authors need a platform and I have been a professional speaker since 2007, and it’s grown more than I imagined with my services. Now being a speaker is not important if you’re not doing it Internationally. Really! With Zoom and Podcasts, someone can be heard or seen globally. When someone finds out the secret, I’d like to hear it.

This is when they say be persistent. Keep trying. Ignore the hundreds of rejections. Self-publishing is starting to look good to me. I had seven publishers that advertised they were traditional publishers and they wanted my book, BUT, I didn’t fit the traditional side but wanted me to have them self-publish the book. Why not? They’re asking anywhere from $5,000 to $14,000. If I had that money, I’d be happy where I’m at for now.

I did learn that if I wanted a number one publisher like Simon and Schuster, I could for the $14,000. Wow! what as happened with publishers honestly wanting to work with authors? It’s so true when they say everyone make money off a book but the author!

I so wanted to present this book contributed from 34 alcoholic and drug addicts to everyone, but for now, I’m still plugging ahead. As always, I love and appreciate your support.

Until then, remember Someone Stops This Merry-Go-Round and the sequel Please, God, Not Two, is available at http://www.amazon.com/author/albertasequeira. You will go behind closed doors to see why our enabling brings the addicted deeper into their problems. Read the reviews and see what others thought. Once you read the two books, you’ll appreciate The Mindset of the Alcoholic and Drug Addict. After all, the stories are raw and from the addicted themselves.

Addicts helping addicts is a unique gift.

Alberta

Introduction to Someone Stop This Merry-Go-Round

INTRODUCTION

Alcoholism is a disease that affects millions of people along with heart problems, diabetes, cancer, and drug addiction. We hear and read about different diseases that kill people every day and how they leave broken-hearted families behind.

Who is considered an alcoholic and what are they like in behavior? We all have our own personal conception about what a person has to do in order to be considered an alcoholic. Usually, they’re labeled as habitual drunks.

Most of us picture an alcoholic as a person, curled-up and passed out among the over-turned garbage cans and found on a hidden side-street between buildings or someone under a torn, grimy blanket sleeping on a park bench with a newspaper over their face and wearing ragged, filthy clothes looking as though they needed a hot, sudsy shower. In fact, a large percentage of the public automatically assumes it’s a man in this condition having the problem. A woman could be the alcoholic in these situations. There is no special gender.

Our intellects come to the understanding and conclusion that the drinker has absolutely no desire to find a job or no wish to mingle with and contribute to society. We insist that many of them are living off the welfare system with no intention of bettering themselves. When we come in contact with the drinker, many of us lose patience with them or omit them completely in our conversations and social circles.

It’s more comfortable for us to pretend that they don’t exist. In other words, they’re not getting their act together to think and do things the way we believe they should.

Because our own lives are structured and orderly, we believe that we’re better than the alcoholic. We forget how blessed our families are to have jobs that pay well, three good meals a day on the table, independent lives, and the freedom to come and go as we like. This concept is what most people consider to be a healthy American life under normal living conditions.

The reality of an alcoholic’s life won’t hit us until we come in direct contact with a family member, friend, or a close acquaintance who’s struggling to combat this disease. Then we develop the need to understand fully and to gain the knowledge of what alcohol is doing to the alcoholic and the people around them.

Once the abuser’s actions start to affect our lives, we suddenly sit-up and open our eyes to what’s happening to the individual. The desire to help them is there because we love the person and can see that the disease has changed his or her personality, morals, and ambitions. The devastating fact hits us that alcohol is slowly killing our loved one.

The alcoholics themselves can become acutely aware that they are drowning in drink and still don’t feel the need or have the willpower to get help. For them, the battle to give up liquor has too many side effects, and it’s too hard to combat the habit, especially if this life-style has been going on for years.

It’s a struggle every day for an alcoholic to just get out of bed. Many spend their days sleeping. They skip meals because their appetite has disappeared, thereby causing more damage to their health because their bodies breakdown from lack of proper nutrition to keep them stable.

Many alcoholics who have tried to fight the disease don’t relish the unpleasant physical effects of going without a drink; instead, they give in and turn back to drinking. In their mind, taking a drink is the only way to stop the effects of withdrawal. They fear going to any public place, and the drinking imprisons them in their own home behind closed doors.

Their lives and minds are constantly in a confused state. Alcoholics live in uncertainty that immobilizes them. They find it hard to do anything for themselves or their families. All confidence disappears. They make up all kinds of stories in order to avoid doing anything that makes them uncomfortable.

Doctors’ appointments are cancelled because they fear what they may be told. Family events are ignored so they don’t have to hear about their behavior or their broken promises. They live in denial that they have any problem at all and believe they can stop drinking at any time.

Getting sober for an alcoholic means they’ll have to take the giant step of signing themselves into a detoxification center. There, they’ll experience what they feared: the shakes, being confined, and taking medicine that will make them feel worse before they get better. They’re subjected to answering personal, embarrassing questions and being cooped-up in a single room with strangers, whom they consider to be sicker than they are.

After weeks or months of drying out, they’re pushed into the outside world again to face the same problems that brought them there. Depending on circumstances, they’ll have to confront the people that they hurt, deal with job hunting, and return to having the responsibility of making family decisions. Some become paranoid, thinking that everyone is judging them and watching their every move to see if they slip. Some probably are being watched because the whole family becomes sick and confused from the disease.

If they don’t continue to seek professional counseling after being rehabilitated, join an AA group, or find a sponsor, most alcoholics go right back to the bottle, which is always there to comfort them with no condemnation.

Going back to drinking, or falling off the wagon as the expression goes, doesn’t mean that they want to—it means they’re sick. Alcoholism is a disease that is highly hereditary. It would be so much easier if drinking could be cured by simply taking a pill. The first step to recovery for the alcoholic is for him or her to want the help. No one can help them if they don’t want recovery.

Alcoholics have the same wants and dreams as the rest of us. There was a time when they held a job, had a marriage, brought up children, owned a home and a car, and had a social life with their friends and families. Now, they have become frightened human beings who have lost their dignity.

Alcoholism doesn’t happen overnight. The reality of their lives being out-of- control came when catastrophes started to happen all around them. Some drinkers are fortunate to be able to keep their lives fairly normal, but others don’t realize it’s a problem until they lose everything.

Society needs to stop looking at the millions of alcoholics as bums or low-class individuals who don’t want to better themselves. They have a disease that can reach the point of no return.

If a person has been drinking for years and wants to stop, the body may have reached the point where it needs the drink. The body craves it; then there’s no stopping.

Someone Stop This Merry-Go-Round is based on the true story of my life living with and losing a husband to alcoholism. Slowly, our happy lives as a secure family started to fall to pieces at different stages. It seems completely incomprehensible to me now that I couldn’t see the signs of serious drinking from this uncontrollable disease.

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