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Why Do They Drink? The Mindset of the Alcoholic

July 29, 2016


Do you ever wonder why some alcoholics and drug addicts recover and put their lives together while others die from this horrible worldwide problem? What gives them the physical and mental strength to fight this battle and come out winning? These questions, and the author’s tragedy to losing her husband and daughter from their alcohol abuse, encouraged this writing.

Here is a book, not only for the substance abusers, but for family members, society, doctors, and counselors to learn, not only what the addict is looking for with support to help them through with their recovery, but new ways to help the addicted. You will learn that childhood emotional wounds mold us into what we become in adulthood.

What is and isn’t Working for the Alcoholic and Addict is a book of personal stories by thirty-four alcoholics and drug users from all walks of life. The first few years of recovery in substance abuse contain numerous pitfalls which addicts in recovery must have the right kind of help with. The best-intention of friends, family, lovers, and co-workers can be healthy supports or obstacles to long-term sobriety. Addicts sharing their experience, strength and hope with others is something that only a recovering addict or alcoholic can do. It is a unique gift.

This book contains the testimonies of individuals who were or are actively in a recovery program and wanted to share their habit and actions with their struggles trying to overcome their own addiction. Their main goal is to help others who are fighting with their recovery and sobriety.

These are their own stories on how their addiction led to the devastation of losing control of their life, family, friends and the death of other family members from this disease we call Alcoholism. Their desire is to lift other substances abusers, especially young people, in learning the reality that it’s not that drinking and taking drugs may, could or would kill. It will.

Hopefully, the heartfelt honesty from the participants will help doctors and counselors to use their stories for their own study on what may be missing in the treatment methods.
The personal testaments within What is and isn’t Working for the Alcoholic and Addict is an added tool as to how people are affected, and how they suffer long-term drinking habits from living in an active alcoholic family.

As one contributor wrote, “I was tired of getting sick, my hands shaking, my vision deteriorating, my nose bleeding, my bowels moving sporadically, the violence and running from many situations being paranoid to the point of staying home all day (I had a job, a husband, family), not sleeping and not feeling safe.” What alcoholic or addict is not going to relate to these emotions?

What is and isn’t Working for the Alcoholic and Addict, along with all other books by Alberta Sequeira, are in Amazon in paperback or Kindle. The book is free in KDP Select.

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Do You Want to Recover?

July 13, 2016

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Writing to Your Loved One Who is Addicted

June 5, 2016



Sounds crazy, huh? Writing to your loved-one addicted to drugs or alcohol!  Looking back, I wished I had thought of that before losing Richie or Lori. We often feel things, but we can’t express them, therefore, we never say them.

Words that can make the sick understand why we reach out to them with fights, hard words, disappointment, punishment: which we are really trying to show our fear of losing them and our deepest love at the same time.

The addicted don’t communicate with us, when maybe they want to connect to us as a family. It is a useless cycle of avoiding the topic of what is killing all of us; Alcoholism. The substance abusers and the family members suffer from nerves, breakdowns, and hopelessness.

This is a “Family Disease.” Where does it stop? How do we stop it? Why are we told to let the abuser make the decisions on their own, and how they need to make the recovery? True, but what about the ones who have reached the point of having their organs shut down and have no strength to pull out? What about the abuser who isn’t strong enough to get to a hospital or reach out to professionals?

As a woman who had lost a husband and daughter to alcohol abuse, it isn’t easy sitting back and watching them die slowly day by day. More pain comes from the counselors who say that parents can’t get into counseling to help them, because of the Patient Privacy Act.

How can the sick make a healthy decision with their lives when it’s in their court to decide? Their brains are fried from years of drinking or using. By now, their only wish is to drink themselves to death or take that last over-dose.

They are beyond reaching. Parents or relatives should be able to intervene when the sick can’t save themselves.

Writing can help, but showing the love and desire to help them, is more strong in reaching the addicted. They want to see more than hear that we are waiting for them to turn to us.

Any action is better than none. If you can’t say the words out loud, than write it. “Show” the love.

Alberta Sequeira

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Be Proud!

May 21, 2016


Taking the first step is recovery. Don’t worry if you fall. You can always get back up again. Look straight ahead and not back. Forget the mistakes and pain. Aim for your health. Be proud of any accomplishments.

As long as you want to get back to who you were, you are advancing. If you drank or used because you didn’t like who you were, change the things you that made you feel bad about yourself.

Only you can put yourself first and erase the substance abuse.

Alberta Sequeira


Helping the Alcoholic

May 21, 2016

Getting out of Denial

April 2, 2016


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In my lowest moments, the only reason I didn’t commit suicide was that I knew I wouldn’t be able to drink any more if I was dead.
ERIC CLAPTON, Clapton: The Autobiography


Who do you see?

March 2, 2016

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Who do you see looking at the addict? Are you missing the person who is suffering or making them into who you think they are?

Have you thought of sitting with them when they are sober and asking what they are feeling or needing to get into recovery? Not knowing them makes you miss the sick person. Listening does more good than the blaming, yelling and throwing questions at them.

Take the time to attend Al-Alon meeting to learn your reactions may make the situation worse. Don’t fight this alone. Working together is the best way of making them see where they are going. Don’t wait until it is too late.

Alberta Sequeira



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