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April 11, 2015

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I look as comfortable and as happy as anyone can be after our horrible winter! This picture was taken a few years ago as Al and I soaked up the sun in Orlando, Florida. I had always hoped that after my retirement we would be comfortable enough to do this often on many tropical islands. God had other plans for me.

My main goal for setting up this blog was to reach out to alcoholics and drug addicts, along with their families to talk and share our outlook on pain, confusion and many times abuse from addiction. We used to hide this topic of alcohol and drugs behind closed doors and suffered in silence. I was one of many people who did and became the experienced enabler. I learned too late after losing my husband, Richard, and daughter, Lori, from their own addiction that innocently doing so I pushed my loved ones deeper into their habit and it lead to their death. I could only love and support them, they had to make the decision to want the help.

I became an author and speaker of the loss of my first husband, Richard Lopes, and my second tragedy of losing our daughter, Lori (Lopes) Cahill, both from North Dighton, Massachusetts from their alcohol addiction.

Suddenly I became a speaker at halfway homes, court ordered programs, rehab locations and to the public. I speak from the heart on all the mistakes I feel could have been handled differently and maybe…just maybe, they would both be alive today. At least I would have felt I did everything possible in my power to have helped than believing A.A. swearing to let them fight this until they reached that rock bottom.

I wrote three memoirs: A Spiritual Renewal: A Journey To Medjugorje, which is about love, faith and miracles; Someone Stop This Merry-Go-Round; An Alcoholic Family in Crisis, about my young marriage to Richard with our two daughters, Debbie and Lori. The sequel Please, God, Not Two; This Killer Called Alcoholism is about losing Lori.  I wanted answers to why some addicts make it and other die like Richard and Lori so I published my first Narrative Non-Fiction What is and isn’t Working for the Alcoholics and Addicts; In Their Own Words. This is a book of testimonies from thirty-four recovering alcoholics and drug users from all walks of life from the United States and Canada with their testimonies on what hasn’t and isn’t working in their recovery programs. This book is for the addicted, family members, counselors, doctors and the public.

All my books are in paperback and Kindle at http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss_1?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=alberta+sequeira.

My email is alberta.sequeira@gmail.com if you want a quote for a talk.

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‘I grew up in a family filled with domestic violence and alcohol abuse’

April 2, 2015

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She’s proved to be a fierce competitor on the latest season of Australia’s Next Top Model.
But behind her piercing blue eyes and captivating photographs, Jess Thomas was harbouring a tragic back story.
The 18-year-old has opened up to OK! magazine about the shocking abuse she and her family suffered at the hands of her alcoholic father ahead of Thursday’s new episode.
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Painful past: Australia’s Next Top Model’s Jess Thomas has opened up to OK! magazine about the shocking abuse her and her family suffered at the hands of her alcoholic father ahead of Thursday’s new episode

Painful past: Australia’s Next Top Model’s Jess Thomas has opened up to OK! magazine about the shocking abuse her and her family suffered at the hands of her alcoholic father ahead of Thursday’s new episode
‘Because of my father, I grew up in a family filled with domestic violence and alcohol abuse; those were the worst years for me and really affected me later on in life.’

Jess was candid in the interview about how her low self confidence and quiet demeanour was a result of her family patriarch.
When she was five-years-old, she told the magazine that things began to look up when she and family escaped the abuse with help of police.

Since moving to Perth, she said she hasn’t had any contact with her father, but did walk past him once without him even realising who she was.

Opening up: Jess was candid in the interview about how her low self confidence and quiet demeanour was a result of her family patriarch

Opening up: Jess was candid in the interview about how her low self confidence and quiet demeanour was a result of her family patriarch.

Thanks to Australia’s Next Top Model, Jess’ confidence is growing every week, and her modelling portfolio is going from strength-to-strength after mousy-brown mane was dyed a vibrant and mesmerising red.

Jess’ admission comes weeks after she touched on her childhood during an episode of the ratings juggernaut on Fox 8.
She told viewers in a piece to camera that she wanted to make it in the modelling world so she could support her mother.
She said that she once took modelling classes but had to give them away because she couldn’t afford to participate.
Jess goes fiery red in Australi’a Next Top Model makeover
Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-3100190/Australia-s-Model-Jess-Thomas-opens-trauma-suffered-hands-father.html#ixzz3bUcN3FmH

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Daily Sayings

March 16, 2015

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Drug Prevention

March 15, 2015

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National Prevention Week focuses on community involvement, partner engagement, and resource sharing.

Canadian, Oklahoma (PRWEB) May 26, 2015

National Prevention Week

National Prevention Week is observed during May every year. It is supported by the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA), and dedicated to raising public awareness of, and action about, substance abuse as well as mental health issues. Individuals, and community organizations and coalitions are encouraged to join in promoting prevention strategies, in educating other people about substance abuse and related issues, and in building community partnerships.

People in communities across the nation are encouraged to join with others in their community, and with local community organizations and coalitions to help educate about and promote prevention strategies, and help in building community partnerships.

Read more: http://www.virtual-strategy.com/2015/05/26/narconon-arrowhead-takes-part-national-prevention-week#ixzz3bIjEydMs
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Oklahoma-based Narconon Arrowhead is a long-term drug and alcohol rehabilitation and education center dedicated to year-round drug-free rehabilitation of the addict, and drug prevention education. The “I Choose” Project is a way for Narconon Arrowhead staff and those living sober lives as a result of the Naronon Program to set a positive example, inspire others, and make a difference for the better.

Each Narconon Arrowhead participant is submitting a photograph of themselves holding a sign bearing a personal message about substance abuse prevention, substance abuse treatment, sobriety, helping others get sober—whatever is meaningful and personally important to share with others—to SAMSHA.

The Narconon Arrowhed “I Choose” messages will be of hope, of help, of choosing life through treatment, of choosing prevention for health and happiness, or choosing not to give-up when trapped in the prison of addiction.

The photographs of each person with his or her special message for National Prevention Week, once submitted and reviewed by SAMSHA, will be posted in the SAMSHA “I Choose” photo gallery.

Narconon Arrowhead participants celebrate The Voice of One, the Power of All theme by sharing their individual voices, and the collective power of their true-life messages of substance abuse prevention, successfully overcoming substance abuse, and helping others reclaim their lives from addiction and alcoholism.

Drug Prevention Education

In addition to participating in the “I Choose” Project for National Prevention Week, Narconon Arrowhead continues to make drug prevention education services and materials available to parents, educators, law enforcement, community leaders, schools, church and youth groups, and local businesses.

For more information on National Prevention Week see the Substance Abuse & Mental Health Services Administration website. To contact us go to http://www.narcononarrowhead.org or call 800-468-6933.

For the original version on PRWeb visit: http://www.prweb.com/releases/narconon-arrowhead/prevention-week-events/prweb12739056.htm

Read more: http://www.virtual-strategy.com/2015/05/26/narconon-arrowhead-takes-part-national-prevention-week#ixzz3bIk7TyXi
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Read Alberta’s books at:

http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss_2?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=alberta+Sequeira

Shatterproof Blog/Taking the Stigma Out of Addiction Discussion

March 6, 2015

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Re: Taking the Stigma Out of Addiction in Ending the Stigma of Addiction
Posted on May 22, 2015 at 3:04 PM

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I agree, Jenny-there is such stigma. I am not ashamed to be in recovery, but I also don’t broadcast it. I am selective about who I tell. I don’t feel it is everyone’s business to know. I also know plenty of people who do not share their recovery bc they are moms, dads, professionals and they fear how it will look for their kids/other parents/their boss. I get it, but that also perpetuates the stigma bc too many people feel they need to keep quiet. It is a touchy topic. I am sure my family would not be thrilled if I were in my local paper talking about my addiction. I would probably be told to stop airing my dirty laundry. It is such a hard thing to discern. I work in the addiction field now, but in other jobs I was more gaurded about my being in recovery.

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Re: Taking the Stigma Out of Addiction in Ending the Stigma of Addiction
Posted on May 22, 2015 at 4:40 PM

wmscuderi
It’s unfortunate that you would refer to someone who is willing to speak out about their addiction as “airing dirty laundry.” As a parent of someone in recovery it’s hard to fight for the care and rescources a family needs when you are in hiding. I went through the stage of hiding my son’s addiction and it was miserable. The stress of hiding this caused more medical and social problems for our son and the rest of our family. The day we decided as a family that we weren’t hiding this anymore the healing process began and doors began opening allowing us to connect with others. People who speak out about this are my heros, courageous and insightful. I spoke out on this with the consent of our son and the outpouring of support and connection was immeasurable. We share to support and encourage each other to try and prevent others who are shamed into silence. Addiction is a disease of the brain and speaking out helps spread the word. I respect everyone’s right to privacy, but I don’t consider our story to be “dirty laundry” and I advocate for other families and their loved ones to feel that way too.

Reviews of What is and isn’t Working for the Alcoholic and Addict

October 10, 2014

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Great Info for the family of the addict
By MSH58
Format: Paperback

I have learned a lot from family and friends who are in recovery and this book took it one level deeper. The stories are raw, honest and heartfelt from the people who lived through the pain and came out on the other side. I would recommend this book to family members or friends who want to know how an addict/alcoholic thinks. It’s also could be a good way to open a conversation with a loved one who is struggling to come to grips with whether they have a problem. We all want to know the right way to handle things and I think Alberta’s book gives us insight that there is no “pat” answer that applies to every addict. Bravo to the folks telling their stories!

Many addicts stories
By Amazon Customer
Format: Kindle Edition Verified Purchase

Very informative reading many addicts stories. What made them seek help. What helped them stay sober. What length of time needed in treatment. What treatment programs need.

Personal and revealing
By Heidi Hofschulz
Format: Kindle Edition

It is amazing that there are so many different experiences, all gathered by the author and put in one place. There are no stereotypes that can encapsulate all the individuals who shared their stories. This book is very personal, and the stories are revealing in many frames of reference. I think the book is a gentle tool for addicts/alcoholics and for their families. It is nice to have a book I can recommend to someone I come across who is in either situation, since it’s rare to find a person who is unaffected by these things in their lives at some point.

Purchase: http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss_1?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=alberta+sequeira

Drinking and Marriages

May 14, 2014

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