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November 2, 2018

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Alberta Sequeira

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Prayer for Strength

August 8, 2018

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“God, grant me the serenity
to stop beating myself up for
not doing things perfectly,
the courage to forgive me
because I’m working on
doing better, and the wisdom
to know that you already
love me just the way I am.”

by Eleanor Brown​,
a ​motivational speaker and author

Holidays Around the Corner

August 7, 2018

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Holidays can be a blessing or nightmare. Here is when your “Choices” matter. Only you are in control of staying sober or following the crowd with alcohol or drug abuse. You make your life!

Do things for someone else during the holidays. Help children, go to hospitals to volunteer, visit VA locations, have your own “Sober Parties,” drive seniors around, attend sports (avoid the beerstand), take in movies, go bowling, read the books you have put aside, go to an AA meeting, take the holiday weekend and go away, ask that certain person out and spend the day together, speak at jails; they welcome substance abusers to talk to them, take in plays, go to the big city for the day, write that book, or go to your place of worship; ask God for help.

Holidays can be very lonely when you’re by yourself. Life is lonely by yourself. Changing your life-style, your friends, your actions, is a hard choice. Don’t be alone. Find the people who want the same things as you and help each other.

Email me when you’re down. I’d love to hear from you!

Thank you,
Alberta Sequeira
alberta.sequeira@gmail.com

Choices with Addiction

July 24, 2018

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Tips from the Betty Ford Rehab for Holidays

July 23, 2018

Most people know the holidays can be a period of emotional highs and lows. Loneliness, anxiety, happiness and sadness are common feelings, sometimes experienced in startling succession. The bad news is the holiday blues can trigger relapse for people recovering from alcoholism and other drug addiction. The good news is the blues can be remedied by planning ahead.

Why do the blues hit during this otherwise festive season? Doing too much or too little and being separated from loved ones at this special time can lead to sadness during the holiday season. Many recovering people associate the holidays with memories of overindulgence, perhaps of big benders that resulted in relationship problems or great personal losses.

People experience feelings of melancholy, sadness and grief tied to holiday recollections. Unlike clinical depression, which is more severe and can last for months or years, those feelings are temporary. Anyone experiencing major symptoms of depression, such as persistent sadness, anxiety, guilt or helplessness; changes in sleep patterns; and a reduction in energy and libido, should seek help from a mental health professional.

Whether you’re in recovery or not, developing a holiday plan to help prevent the blues, one that will confront unpleasant memories before they threaten your holiday experience. Your plan should include improved self-care, enhanced support from others, and healthy ways to celebrate. Here are a few suggestions to achieve a happy, sober holiday season:

Good self-care is vital. Remember to slow down. Take some quiet time each day and work on an attitude of gratitude. Plan relaxation and meditation into your day, even for a few minutes, no matter how busy you are. Relax your standards and reduce overwhelming demands and responsibilities.

Don’t overindulge. Go easy on the holiday sweets and follow a balanced diet. Monitor your intake of caffeine, nicotine and sugar. Exercise regularly to help maintain your energy level amid a busier schedule. Don’t try to do too much. Get plenty of sleep. Fatigue is a stressor. Maintain some kind of schedule and plan ahead; don’t wait until the last minute to purchase gifts or prepare to entertain.

Enhance your support system. Holidays are a good time to reach out more frequently to your therapist, sponsor, spiritual advisor, or support group. If you’re in recovery, spend time with fellow recovering people. Let others help you realize your personal limits. Learn to say “no” in a way that is comfortable for you.

Find new ways to celebrate. Create some new symbols and rituals that will help redefine a joyful holiday season. You might host a holiday gathering for special recovering friends and/or attend celebrations of your Twelve Step group. Avoid isolation and spend time with people you like who are not substance users. Don’t expose yourself to unnecessary temptations, such as gatherings where alcohol is the center of entertainment. If there are people who have a negative influence on you, avoid them.

Focus on your recovery program. Holidays are also an important time to focus on your recovery program. For example, ask, “What am I working on in my program now?” Discuss this with your sponsor.

Release your resentments. Resentment has been described as allowing a person you dislike to live in your head, rent-free. Resentments that gain steam during the holidays can be disastrous for anyone, especially recovering people. The Big Book of “Alcoholics Anonymous” refers to resentment as the No. 1 offender, or the most common factor in failed sobriety.

Holidays may also be a time to evaluate your spirituality and find a personal way to draw support from the spirit of the season. Return the holidays to a spiritual base, and stress the power of unselfish giving.

Recovery is serious work, but it is also important to have fun. Laugh a little and a little more. Start seeing the humor in those things that annoy you. Take from the holiday season what is important for you and leave the rest.
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Be Good to Yourself

May 26, 2018

Alberta Sequeira
www.albertasequeira.wordpress.com
alberta.sequeira@gmail.com
Purchase books at http://www.amazon.com/author/albertasequeira

Stop Dying–Start Living

May 14, 2018

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From www.drugabuse.com

Addiction is the ultimate identity thief. It doesn’t set up false bank accounts or hack your email – it steals your identity from within.

Spinning in a cycle of chemical dependency, those battling with drugs and alcohol often don’t realize one important truth: Your true identity is buried beneath the substance abuse.

Haley’s a great example. She entered rehab, where she attended art therapy each week as part of her treatment. She discovered a hidden talent. With her mind clear of opiates, she found out she was full of creative ideas for beautiful works of art.

And then there’s Simon. He had forgotten how much he loved to play the piano. Focused entirely on drinking for the past five years, he hadn’t even touched a keyboard. After getting clean and sober, he had time to pick up the hobby again – and loves how it makes him feel.

Jenny also made an incredible discovery. As part of her treatment plan, she volunteered weekly at a food pantry. She found it intimidating at first, but quickly discovered she could really relate to people. Without drugs, she was no longer irritable or constantly thinking about avoiding withdrawal. Jenny found that she really loves being with people and serving others. She’s thinking of pursuing a career in social services.

Getting to Know Yourself

What passions, skills, and surprising interests might lie beneath your chemical dependency? Like Haley, Simon, and Jenny, you can find out. When you’re ready to start the journey, try these three steps:

Step #1 – Discover What Brings You Joy

Try new things. Revisit old interests. Either in a treatment setting or on your own, explore what makes you happy. Get out in nature. Pick up a paintbrush. Try some yoga poses. Spend time with animals. This will open up new opportunities you never knew existed. The world of recovery will become more exciting and inviting. You’ll realize just how much more there is to life (and to you) than substance abuse.
Step #2 – Insert More of Those Things in Your Life

Once you’ve discovered joy-filled activities, make an effort to do them. Does strumming a guitar energize you? Does baking a cake give you a sense of accomplishment? Whatever it is that strikes a chord with your joy – do that. Write these things down and make it a goal to pursue them.
Step #3 – Give Your Identity a Realignment

Crushed beneath the weight of substance abuse, your identity has been suffering. It’s likely dripping with negativity, anxiety and pain. As you discover new parts of your soul, you can start to repair this image. The truth is, you’re way more than your drug of choice. You’re more than what you do or what you’ve done. Continue to explore the possibilities, and you’ll discover just how much you have to offer the world.

alberta.sequeira@gmail.com
Purchase my books at www.amazon.com/author/albertasequeira

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