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Interview with Sheriff Thomas Hodgson

February 6, 2018

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Choices for the Alcoholic and Drug Addict

January 19, 2018

Choices

Where has Alberta Been?

January 15, 2018

A. Sequeira

This is a good question. I have been busy with reaching out to the inmates at the Bristol County Corrections in Dartmouth, MA. I did a television show with Sheriff Thomas Hodgson, which should be out soon and I’ll post it for all. I plan on returning for a stage 2 program to help keep the inmates motivated.

Writing? My fingers are busy with my next book, and first fictional called The Rusty Years, which will be a trilogy. As of now, I have a publisher reviewing the first. Hopefully, the book will interest them.

I put my heart and soul into writing about the loss of my father, Brigadier General, Albert L. Gramm; my husband, Richard Lopes, and my daughter, Lori Cahill.

It’s time to show another side of me. I want people to know I enjoy life and love to reach readers to take them away from their stress and problems a few hours or days, and read away.

The Rusty Years is dedicated to seniors, but this book is for all who had let a loved one slip through your fingers or the feelings of giving a child up for adoption. It’s a story focusing on how one mistake can eat at us our entire life, holding us back from moving on with what God has blessed us with in our lives.

Do you wonder what it would have been like with that special person? Where did he or she go? Are they happy? Oh, yes, the questions to never be answered. The Rusty Years is a book to entertain you with a woman’s life back in the 1930’s during the Great Depression and living in Chatham, Massachusetts. You can picture the Cape Cod landmarks, smell the salt air along the sand dunes, hear the waves hitting the beaches, watch the seagulls flying overhead, and the tiny shops and cabins right down to the tip of Provincetown.

I hope to give a date the book will be published.

Alberta Sequeira

Winter Blues

January 8, 2018

Robin

The summer is gone and how we wait for it to return. The days make us realize what the sunshine does to us mentally. You feel the heat, wear less clothing, enjoy the beach, a walk in the park, open windows, warm air, or whatever else brings you relaxation.

Now, we are faced with the wintertime. Yes, depressing. The snow, ice, shoveling, the howling winds, chills, boots, heavy coats, and being locked-in our homes, oil bills, all can overwhelm us.

Even the robin waits for that worm to come out of the once frozen ground!!

This is a good season if you love the outdoors; sliding, skiing, ice fishing, going to the states with tons of snow. Bless you all. I’m the person in the cabin keeping the coffee hot. HATE, HATE winter.

But, we have to hold on. Only a few more months of horrible cold and snow. Getting depressed or letting boredom enter, makes you want to throw it all away and go for that drink or meet the friends who pull you down with sobriety.

If you can afford it, take a few days off and go where it’s warm. Head South. Not many of us are that comfortable financially for that move. What brings you fun? Getting together with sober friends can help. Get a good book, take in a movie, enjoy spending your time with a special person.

This season and depressing moments are a challenge. Why not look into who you can help? Go into senior places, the VA locations, or hospitals. See others who are worse off than you. Bring someone joy for the day, can also bring you joy. Go to your place of prayer. Getting close to God is the highest you can go with peace. Know you are not alone.

Alberta Sequeira

Did you find this helpful? Contact me: alberta.sequeira@gmail.com

Addict’s Forgiveness

January 4, 2018

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Transforming Your Addiction

January 4, 2018

TRANSFORMING YOUR LIFE THROUGH POSITIVE THOUGHTS
by Hal Baumchen, PsyD, LP, LADC
This lesson will help us examine the thoughts and beliefs in uencing our feelings and actions. Negative and pessimistic thoughts lead to worrisome and depressive feelings and careless or poorly planned actions. Negative thoughts greatly impact every aspect of addiction and include distortions, inaccurate exaggerations, irrelevant thoughts, misperceptions, doubts, deceptions, and the lies we tell ourselves. Thoughts, feelings, and beliefs often become confused and distorted, especially with substance use and abuse. Confused thoughts and inaccurate beliefs lead to compromised actions. You must change the way you think in order to strengthen your recovery. Included are ten principles of self-change. Discover how to recognize, refute, and replace automatic thoughts, and learn to change the way you think, feel, and act.
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TRANSFORMING YOUR LIFE THROUGH POSITIVE THOUGHTS
The following lesson will help you examine the thoughts and beliefs that in uence our feelings and actions. These thoughts and beliefs can be either positive or negative. When the thought is negative and pessimistic, it may
lead to worrisome and depressive feelings, and carelessly or poorly planned actions. Negative thoughts include distortions, inaccurate exaggerations, irrelevant thoughts, misperceptions, doubts, deceptions, and lies we tell ourselves. Thoughts, feelings, and beliefs often become confused and distorted, especially with substance use and abuse. Confused thoughts and inaccurate beliefs lead to compromised actions. You must change the way you think in order to strengthen your recovery. Understanding the relationship between thoughts, feelings, and behavior is essential to recovery. The following 10 points will clarify how changing your thinking will bene t your recovery.
THE 10 TENETS OF SELF CHANGE
1. Change is possible. Out of respect for yourself and others, you can change yourself.
2. The foundation of change is a change in your thinking.
3. Change is made possible through simple, but systematic e orts in a single direction over time.
4. The will to change can be developed.
5. The ability to change can be strengthened.
6. The enemies of change can be identi ed and minimized.
7. It is critical to understand the interaction between the environment, circumstances, and your thinking.
8. Thoughts rule. Perceptions, attitudes, and feelings are in uential lobbyists, but not decision-makers.
9. Healing for psychological pains of the past requires a change in your thinking in the present.
10. Successful change is inspirational. Motivational momentum can be maximized.
AUTOMATIC NEGATIVE THOUGHTS (ANTs)
Negative thoughts in uence your feelings and actions and drive your addiction. Automatic negative thoughts (ANTs for short) are those deeply held, and often repeated, pessimistic perceptions that lead to intense emotions and wayward actions. ANTs can ruin any picnic and derail your positive mood. Every automatic negative thought, in my opinion, carries a crumb of truth. Therefore, it is necessary to re ect on which thoughts are distorted and which thoughts are accurate. It may be di cult at rst to identify the distorted thoughts.
Negative thoughts that accompany drug and alcohol use are often irrational and
exaggerated. They fuel the addiction and make it di cult to change.
Consider the following ve-step process to analyze thinking: 1. Recognize negative thoughts.
2. Refute negative thoughts.
3. Replace negative thoughts with positive thoughts.
4. Rehearse the positive substitution. 5. Repeat the process as necessary.
Recognize Refute Replace Rehearse Repeat
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THE 5RS OF CHANGED THINKING
Let’s examine each of these more carefully.
1. Recognize negative thoughts. Oftentimes we have di culty recognizing our negative thoughts for what they are. As you grow in recovery you are more able to recognize pessimistic and nonconstructive thoughts as they come. Recognition of the intrusive negative thought allows you to take it captive, weigh its validity, and accept or reject it.
Identify three negative thoughts you have had recently.
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2. Refute negative thoughts. As you analyze the thought, determine if it is destructive and damaging. If it is, you can decline it and discard it.“That is not true and I will not accept it.”You can kick it to the side and refuse to en- tertain it as legitimate. Do not believe every thought you think is true, wholesome, and helpful. Determine if it is true and reject it when it is not. When you listen to the radio or watch TV, you will likely hear or see a commercial asking you to come down and buy a new car. You instantly identify the thought as irrelevant information and a re- quest that did not pertain to you. You automatically kick that thought to the side and disregard it without giving it any consideration. Our thoughts can be reviewed in a similar way. We have many thoughts each day presenting distorted information and inappropriate requests. It is our right and duty to kick those thoughts to the side. Many of our own thoughts are distorted, inaccurate, and illegitimate. Treat them as such.
Glancing back at the thoughts you previously wrote, write a statement rejecting, refusing, or refuting each of them.
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3. Replace negative thoughts with positive thoughts. After you have refused a negative thought, nd a positive alternative or substitute. Think about things that are true, right, and wholesome. “I can’t do this” becomes “I am making progress”.
Write a positive alternative for each of the following negative thoughts.
I can’t do anything right. ____________________________________________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________________________________________
No one loves or cares about me. ____________________________________________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________________________________________
I am an idiot. ____________________________________________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________________________________________
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My future is hopeless. _____________________________________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________________________________
I will never beat this addiction. _____________________________________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________________________________
Glance again at each statement you wrote at the beginning of this exercise and nd a positive substitute for it. _____________________________________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________________________________
4. Rehearse the positive substitution. Because the negative thought or negative line of thinking has been rehearsed so many times in the past, it will be necessary to rehearse the positive substitution as well. You can replace negative and fear-based self-talk with positive, realistic, and empowering statements. Rehearsing positive substitutions may take some practice to become pro cient and feel more natural. You may nd it helpful to write positive self-statements on a card and keep it with you. Perhaps you could rehearse your positive statements when standing in line, early in the morning, or while walking on the treadmill.
Name a time and strategy to rehearse your positive substitutions. _____________________________________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________________________________
5. Repeat the process as necessary. As you work through this process, it is likely another negative thought is on its way. Repeat the steps as often as necessary in order to stay upbeat and at peace. Challenge your worries and fears as often as it takes.
List three to ve situations you are likely to face where your thoughts become increasingly more negative. Re ect on various ways to diligently use the 5Rs.
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A Spiritual Renewal: A Journey to Medjugorje

December 11, 2017

Review by Thomas Cirignano

For me, reading A Spiritual Renewal was truly uplifting and inspiring. To use those words to honestly characterize a literary work these days is quite rare. It was refreshing that there was no sensationalism to be found, just the author’s heartfelt description of events.

Coincidentally, my reading of Alberta Sequeira’s story was well timed. It was a point in my life when I needed to be reminded that faith is often renewed when we most need it. Does that happen because we, as human beings, search for answers during times of loss and chaos, or does a Higher Power search us out when we truly need it? I’m not overly religious. In fact, I’ve been called “Doubting Thomas” more times than I care to admit. But even I could relate to this story because special coincidences, which most people would consider miracles, have happened to me, just as they did in this author’s life. It was good to read that I am not unique in that respect.

One of the biggest questions we all ponder in life is whether loved ones who have passed on, or other heavenly entities, such as God, The Blessed Mother, or angels actually do watch over us during our lifetimes. All I can say is, read A Spiritual Renewal, look back at the events of your own life, and then decide for yourself.

Reading this book was time well spent.
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