Employee Education Program

THE EFFECT OF ALCOHOLISM ON THE WHOLE FAMILY 
Are your employees having too many absent days from alcohol abuse? You’re not alone. This is a worldwide problem that affects every business; police/fire departments, hospital employees, schools, town employees, and even our military servicemen and women. 
The program is designed to help the substance abusers in your employment come to realize the full effect of their addiction on the whole family and/or marriages, depression, health issues, and the possibility of losing their jobs. It’s aimed to reduce turnover and absenteeism and give back a higher employee productivity in their position within the company. 
The talk is geared to help substance abusers identify and resolve issues facing their troubled lives in and out of the workplace. The impact of employees struggling with alcohol and drug abuse have to deal with a wide range of issues confronting workers today. Thehour-long talk is customized to your unique hours of business during the day (7am-5pm). This program will be presented to your employees struggling with their addiction. If a client wants an hour for those working other shifts to have the presentation on the same day, a $100 deduction will be given on the second.  Prices will differ by distance and out of state travel. 

Instructor: Alberta Sequeira is not a licensed doctor giving medical advice or a professional, trained counselor but an ordinary woman who shares her experience with reaching out to substance abusers and family members with the dangers of the alcoholic and drug addict’s habit and actions. Alberta lost her husband, Richard Lopes, and her daughter, Lori Cahill, of North Dighton, Massachusetts from their addiction to alcohol and drug abuse. Richard Lopes was the brother of Gilbert (Sonny) Lopes, who was the owner of Lopes Construction on Winthrop Street in Taunton, MA. 
She has presented programs to halfway homes, substance abuse rehabilitation centers, court-ordered programs, jails, community colleges, universities, and to the public. Ms. Sequeira has an outlook that some alcoholics relate to a speaker who has experienced confronting the confusion, fear, enabling, and abuse in the family.  

Topics to be Covered: 1. Family Background with Alcohol Abuse 2. Conflicts within the family 3. Drinking Friends/Accidents/Life Out-of-Control 4. Getting out of Denial 5. Fear and Confusion for the Children 6. The Dangers of Black Outs and Abusive Behavior 7. Separation in the Marriage and restraining orders 8. Damage in Health 9. Entering an Alcoholic Rehabilitation Center 10. Patient Privacy Act 11. Relapse 12. Living with the Disease/Exposed to the Liquor Environment 13. The Higher Power 14. Importance with attending AA Meetings, Counseling and Sponsors 15. Getting out of Denial 16. Your Higher Power 

PUBLISHED BOOKS WILL BE AVAILABLE: Autographed Books will be available: Someone Stop This Merry-Go-Round; An Alcoholic Family in Crisis, it’s sequel, Please, God, Not Two: This Killer Called Alcoholism, and the conclusion a Narrative Nonfiction: The Mindset of an Alcoholic and Addict: 34 Americans and Canadians Share their Struggle with Alcohol and Drugs.They are available http://www.amazon.com/author/albertasequeira 
Contact: Alberta Sequeira at: alberta.sequeira@gmail.com 
  AGREEMENT  

Client agrees to compensate Alberta H. Sequeira (Instructor) a seminar fee of $500 fee in advance for an hour presentation. Payment by company check or mail order, sent to Alberta Sequeira two weeks before the event date. This fee is exclusive of airfare, travel, and hotel accommodations (Reputable). Travel expenses are an additional charge.

A location that is in a 25-mile radius will not be charged a travel fee. Out-of-state seminars will be negotiated for pricing on a case by case basis.

Fee: $500/an hour speaking engagement/ No charge to stay longer to answer questions/second shift presentation (on the same day), a $100 deduction. If a client cancels the program for any reason within one week of the scheduled date, no refund will be provided, although, another date can be rescheduled. 
Alberta H. Sequeira grants the client the right to videotape all parts of the seminar presentation to use for educational or marketing purposes. This tape can’t be sold outside of the event to other locations. If a client chooses to make such tapes, they shall provide a video master of any taped presentation to Alberta H. Sequeira within 10 days of the aforementioned event.Alberta H. Sequeira will be available for book signing after the presentation.
It would be helpful if a client could provide a person to assist Alberta Sequeira with the handling of her book sale (if she does not have her assistant) after her program, so that she’s available to speak with the employees.Alberta Sequeira will arrive the day before your event, if it’s a long distant travel event or out-of-state so that no travel delay will interfere with the presentation. In the case of an unforeseen emergency (by Ms. Sequeira or Client) or travel delay (extreme bad weather, air flight cancelation) that prevents her from attending, she will hold the paid fee for a future date to be scheduled by the client. 

Agreed and Accepted by:Client:Company/association___________________________________________________Address: ____________________________________________________________________Any Special Instructions or Location: ________________________________________________________________Signature of Client Representative: _______________________________________Date: _______________________Total Price: ___________________  

Mail check and the original signed Agreement sent two weeks before event
Alberta Sequeira
11 Midway Park Drive #316
Dartmouth, MA 02747
Telephone: 508-938-5322
Email: alberta.sequeira@gmail.com

Where am I Today?

I’ve been poor at writing to keep your attention on this site. Forgive me. I have been struggling with Bronchitis for a month. A cough that wants to linger on forever. Haven’t been writing but don’t want to lose your attention or needs to hear from me.

My book, The Mindset of an Alcoholic and Addict is still in the hands of my agent sending out book proposals to publishers with no contract. One popular publisher was interested until finding out I wasn’t an “international” speaker. Others wanted me to go with helping to pay for the publication. It’s a matter of patience waiting for a publisher to believe in the book as I do to help the addicted and their families.

Why would you want to read this book when it’s published? This book was written by 34 Americans and Canadians sharing their lives with daily struggles to become sober. They want to tell you how our enabling hurts them and brings them deeper into their addiction. You will learn what they want from us to desire the need to get help.

We have to work together and listen to each other’s needs and wants to become united in this family disease. I call this book a conclusion to my other two published memories. You can read them while you’re waiting, hopefully, with good news the new book is being published.

The first, Someone Stop This Merry-Go-Round: An Alcoholic Family in Crisis, is about my younger years married to Richie. It’s an open book on my enabling, Richie’s abuse, and the un-needed fear of two beautiful daughters who never should have witnessed this action. I swallowed my embarrassment to write facts on what happened behind closed doors. Richie died at forty-five years of age at the VA hospital in Providence, Rhode Island from cirrhosis of the liver.

The sequel, Please, God, Not Two: This Killer Called Alcoholism about the continuation of our lives after Richie’s death. I was blind to my youngest daughter, Lori, following the same path as her father. Three alcoholic rehabilitations didn’t stop her from facing reality of her on the verge of dying. I have my private talks that I give to addicts in the book. Lori died at 39 years of age at the Charlton Memorial Hospital in Fall River, Massachusetts.

It’s after I wrote the two books that I wanted answers. What are we all doing wrong for the death rate of addicts still climbing? What do we need to do as family to help our loved ones? How should I have handled the situation? Why didn’t I jump on the times I could have had private talks with them? What do they need from us?

The Mindset of the Alcoholic and Addict is not written by me but the people who have suffered from their habit. It’s their story from the heart. Their raw, honest testimony.

Maybe, after you read the first two, you will understand why I needed answers–all of us who have someone suffering from addiction. The books can be purchased at http://www.amazon.com/author/albertasequeira.

Thank you for following me.

Alberta Sequeira

What Will Readers Get from Reading Alberta’s Books on Alcohol & Drug Addiction

I wrote two serious books on Alcohol and drug Abuse.  My reason was from losing a husband and grown daughter to theirs.  I wanted to show how I had no knowledge of their habit and wanted to share what I should have done better.  With Someone Stop This Merry-Go-Round you will learn:  
1. How enabling only brings the substance abuser deeper into their addiction.
2. How fights only makes a distance between you both.  Listening is more loving and takes down the walls. 
3. The silent treatment only pushes the problem in the background.
4.  Don't make threats you can't keep.
5.  allowing the action to go on too long, starts the blackout. 
6. How to leave safely without putting your life in danger


Book Two: Please, God, Not Two
1. When your child starts hanging out with new friends
2. Skipping school
3. Not realizing this I can be a family disease
4. Getting them help before the age of 18 years old or they will be able to refuse help
5. Stop keeping the blinders on thinking it's a FAZE.
6. Don't believe in "They have to reach rock bottom: Richie and Lori's was their death
7. Get them help if they go hating you.  At least they will be alive

Both books show my action and what I should have done.  The sequel Please, God, Not Two, gives my talks behind closed doors to the substance abusers.  

I have the conclusion, a Narrative Nonfiction, to both books The Mindset of an Alcoholic and Addict: 34 Americans and Canadians Share Their Struggle with Alcohol and Drugs, with an agent.  Hopefully, a publisher will believe in this book as writing and stories that will help many: doctors, counselors, family members, the substance abuser, and the public to understand what we all need to do to get the addict into recovery.
 
Contact me at alberta.sequeira@gmail.com. Books can be purchased at www.amazon.com/author/albertasequeira

The Mindset of an Alcoholic and Addict

This book is now being updated and titled The Mindset of an Alcoholic and Addict. It’s with an agent looking for a publisher.

The first book was Someone Stop This Merry-Go-Round; An Alcoholic Family in Crisis about Richie’s death from drinking. The sequel is Please, God, Not Two; This Killer Called Alcoholism about losing my adult daughter, Lori, from alcohol and drugs.

These two books are available in Amazon at http://www.amazon.com/author/albertasequeira

The Mindset of an Alcoholic and Addict is the conclusion of the two above books written by 34 alcoholic and drug users from the USA and Canada.

Our Lives in Crisis

Come behind closed doors to the true story with the reality of alcohol abuse effecting the whole family. Too much enabling caused the conflicts, confusion, and fear leading up to physical abuse. Two young daughters witness scene that they never should have growing up. It’s the combination of loving the alcoholic and hating him.

Excerpt

Richie wasn’t violent when he came home after drinking, and we didn’t argue; of course, it helped since I didn’t make an issue of him not being home. When Debbie was a year old and past the infant stage, he felt comfortable taking her with him to see Vic and May at the vegetable stand. He loved showing her off.     

He never drank when he was home so we enjoyed good times on the weekends. He’d sit and watch Debbie amuse herself with her toys. At night, we’d cuddle on the couch with a huge bag of popcorn. The weekends were mine with him, and it was so relaxing with the three of us that I’d forget about the long and lonely week nights. 

When Mondays arrived, my stomach would be tied in knots. I could have played a recording instead of waiting for his call. Our normal supper hours went from 5:00 p.m. to sometimes ten at night. Debbie wanted to stay up and see Daddy, but it was always too late. I hated our life; we weren’t a family.  

 

Please, God, Not Two; This Killer Called Alcoholism

This is the sequel

Excerpt

Thinking back, it was another moment in my life that I wished I could have lived over. I should have sat with an arm around Lori telling her how much I loved her to give her assurance. I should have asked what she feared, what she felt, or what she needed and wanted from me. 

We needed to communicate. Instead, we sat on opposite chairs in the living room, in silence, watching television for hours. A day ago, I had heard that she didn’t feel close to me, and there I was sitting, making no effort to reach out to her and show her the complete love that I had for her. As unbelievable as it may sound, I was waiting for her to have the desire to reach out to me. I didn’t want to push her, but I should have. 

Oh, the mistakes we make in life in loving relationships. Everyone waits for the other to make a move. We let precious moments pass that would be better used showing the person how much love we really have for them. We are human beings who need to love and be loved to survive. A person living without these needs fulfilled can drown in depression and hopelessness. 

Both books are in paperback and Kindle. Go too http://www.amazon.com/author/albertaseque

Thank you,

Alberta Sequeira

alberta.sequeira@gmail.com

Is This Our Normal Life?

It’s unimaginable what has happened to the world from the Corona Virus. I used to watch the news with people from China wearing masks from the smog. I’d say to my husband, “I’m glad we don’t have to live like that.” Here we are doing the same, day after day, hoping for an end to all this. I go to bed at night and pray all people would wear a mask and get this under control. I can’t fathom why people are fighting doing something so simple. I hate wearing it myself, but if it saves someone, including myself, I’ll go on being aggravated wearing it.

January 30, 2021, Al and I got our first Pfizer shot. On February 20th, we received the second. There were no reactions. We still have to continue the usage of masks.

I miss going back to normal. I feel lost not giving speaking engagements, book signing, and teaching workshops for writers. Going privately to speak to the alcoholics and addicts behind doors. It’s the contact with people that made me feel alive.

We leave our doors for groceries and doctor appointments and return home At least, we are alive. I feel for the people who have died and their family members being left in shock.

On top of all this, our government is upside down with members acting like enemies to one another to both parties. It’s hard to believe they are adults. What happened to the country and its people? It’s like watching a circus.

Hopefully, I can put events on for writers soon.

Alberta

A New Book in the Making

author with writing

There is no picture as of yet.  In February 2020, I was lucky to get an agent, Nancy Rosenfeld, owner and publisher of the AAABooksUnlimited.com.  The Book Proposal was done by David Tabasky from NY.  The 60-page proposal has been sent out to 15 publishers.

The title is The Mindset of the Alcoholic and Addict. It’s written by 34 substance abusers from all walks of life living in the USA and Canada.  They are telling doctors, counselors, other alcoholics and drug users, family members, and the public what they feel works and doesn’t in their recovery programs.  They open up with enabling them so long that they go deeper into their addiction.  They’re frank with what we’re doing wrong to help them.

SYNOPSIS

In order to make this book authentic and genuine, I went straight to the source––the alcohol and drug users who tell their stories here––raw and real––for all to see. These men and women, who come from all walks of life, share their thoughts and feelings on how they ended up addicted, why they believe recovery programs do and do not work, and how they eventually managed to give up their addictions and turn their lives around. They also provide advice to family members on what they need and how they can best help.

I am one of the family members, after losing my first husband and my adult daughter to the tragedy of addiction. Ever since their deaths, I have been plagued with questions.

What were they thinking and feeling and needing?

Why did they do it?

Why can some recover while others die?

It took me many years to figure out that I couldn’t save my loved ones and even longer to discover the adverse effects this trauma was having on me. I came to realize that I had to do whatever I could to help others in my position to find their path to healing without as much turmoil and suffering as I experienced.

I began my path to learning all I could about this disease, beginning with the three main reasons why addiction begins: genetics, peer pressure, and childhood trauma. This combination of neurological, sociological and psychological triggers provided me with the knowledge that led me to acceptance and peace of mind.

The Mindset of an Addict is my contribution to a larger effort we must make as a society to cure the ills of addiction––for the addicts and those who love them.

Think about it. We all know someone with an alcohol and/or drug problem. The data is staggering and shows no signs of concrete improvement. Sadly, there is a growing audience for a book on this subject and I know from first-hand experience how much I wish a book like this had existed years ago when I needed it most.

I’ll try to add information about the contents.

Alberta Sequeira

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