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October 23, 2019

These are quotes from positive thinkers taken from the September 2019 issue in the Guide Post.

“Brave people don’t let failure define them; they let failure teach them!”
~Annie F. Downs, Author

“Attitude is a boomerang: Whatever you throw out there will come back your way.”
~John Cena, actor and pro wrestler

“Perfectionism is not the path that leads to our fights and to our sense of purpose: it’s the hazardous detour.”
~Brene Brown, author and speaker

“I truly believe that no one can close the door that God has opened for you.”
~Ciara Russell, singer

A Podcast November 1st with Alberta

May 15, 2019

I had a Podcast being interviewed by Joyce Walsh (one of the women in my author’s group) in October and it came out November 1st.  Go to Google.com and key in or try clicking on the title below.  I was at the radio show Chart Productions in Braintree.  This show goes internationally.  
Go to Google.com and key in …‎Mysteries, Myths & More on Apple Podcasts

My favorite thing, is people sending me emails at alberta.sequeira@gmail.com. I would love to hear your story.
My books can be previewed​ and purchased at www.amazon.com/author/albertasequeira

Living Sober

May 7, 2019

My friend gives me the Guideposts magazines to read after she is done with them. I have to share an article I read in the September 2019 issue. I want to give full credit To Zac Clark, the Cofounder, Release Recovery, for his writing.
There are so many topics on the addicted struggling to make it through roadblocks. Please, read the full article as it may be long, but it will have a powerful impact on you, especially the substance abuser.

“There is no one-size-fits-all approach to recovery from drug or alcohol addiction. Poplar media often gives the impression that a 28-day stint in rehab is all it takes. In fact, for most people recovery is a lifelong journey. Inpatients treatment is the start, not the end.
One of the most challenging parts of recovery is transitioning from treatment to everyday life. Treatment centers and sober living facilities are typically highly structured with plenty of supervision and accountability. Eventually, people in recovery must learn to live with less support.
What are the keys to success for people reintegrating into sober life? As Dana Smith learned, two important factors are community and responsibility.
Addiction is a disease of isolation. Substance abuse ruptures relationships and erodes people’s abilities to function at home and at work.
Treatment programs teach skills for repairing relationships, but peon must learn to apply those skills in everyday life. Returning to unhealthy environments, including friends or family members with substance use problems, can be a disaster.
Supportive communities can be found in 12-step or other recovery programs, support groups, sober living houses and among healthy friends, family members and coworkers.
In community, people in recovery can share their struggles and learn to relate to other without the destructive veil of drugs or alcohol.
Addiction is also a disease of despair. Addicts feel tremendous shame and, while they are using, see no hope for recovery.
An excellent way to build a sense of self-worth is to help others and earn a living. Many sober living environments require residents to colic, clean or otherwise help maintain the household.
As they gain confidence in themselves and progress in their recovery, people can mentor others on the path or volunteer at treatment programs or other community organizations.
Many people in recovery find work within the treatment industry, sometimes becoming treatment professionals themselves.
Addiction shatters lives. But the discipline and insight gained in recovery can lead to creativity, empathy and professional accomplishment.
As Dana Smith discovered, that the worst thing that happens to a person sometimes turns out to be the best thing. With the right support and opportunities, people in recovery can become strong, confident blessings to their families and communities.
Thank you, Zac, for a great article.
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Alberta Sequeira

alberta.sequeira@gmail.com
Books at www.amazon.com/author/albertasequeira

How we judge alcoholics on the streets

May 5, 2019

alcoholic on the street

One day, I had been asked to speak at a court-order program to alcoholic and drug addicts in Brockton, Massachusetts. I pushed two sessions in one day with a lot of time in-between. I sat in my car next to a meter and read a book for the second one to arrive.

I noticed a man who looked to be in his fifties stumbling around holding a bottle. I watched as he fell to the cement walkway against a building and sat. He was not that far from me. He held the bottle like it meant his life. He had an over-growth beard and dirty clothes.

I tried to picture my husband and daughter who had died from this same worldwide problem and tried to picture them having no control as this man. They weren’t this bad!

Then, I remember writing Someone Stop This Merry-Go-Round; An Alcoholic Family in Crisis. I wrote about how people look at alcoholics. Here is the Introduction to the book. It’s long, but makes you think!

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Alcoholism is a disease that affects millions of people along with heart problems, diabetes, cancer, and drug addiction. We hear and read about different diseases that kill people every day and how they leave broken-hearted families behind.

Who is considered an alcoholic and what are they like in behavior? We all have our own personal conception about what a person has to do in order to be considered an alcoholic. Usually, they’re labeled as habitual drunks.

Most of us picture an alcoholic as a person, curled-up and passed out among the over-turned garbage cans and found on a hidden side-street between buildings or someone under a torn, grimy blanket sleeping on a park bench with a newspaper over their face and wearing ragged, filthy clothes looking as though they needed a hot, sudsy shower. In fact, a large percentage of the public automatically assumes it’s a man in this condition having the problem. Today, we realize that a woman could be the alcoholic in these situations. As the years pass, there is no special gender.

Our intellects come to the understanding and conclusion that the drinker has absolutely no desire to find a job or no wish to mingle with and contribute to society. We insist that many of them are living off the welfare system with no intention of bettering themselves. When we come in contact with the drinker, many of us lose patience with them or omit them completely in our conversations and social circles.

It’s more comfortable for us to pretend that they don’t exist. In other words, they’re not getting their act together to think and do things the way we believe they should.

Because our own lives are structured and orderly, we believe that we’re better than the alcoholic. We forget how blessed our families are to have jobs that pay well, three good meals a day on the table, independent lives, and the freedom to come and go as we like. This concept is what most people consider to be a healthy American life under normal living conditions.

The reality of an alcoholic’s life won’t hit us until we come in direct contact with a family member, friend, or a close acquaintance who’s struggling to combat this disease. Then we develop the need to understand fully and to gain the knowledge of what alcohol is doing to the alcoholic and the people around them.
Once the abuser’s actions start to affect our lives, we suddenly sit-up and open our eyes to what’s happening to the individual. The desire to help them is there because we love the person and can see that the disease has changed his or her personality, morals, and ambitions. The devastating fact hits us that alcohol is slowly killing our loved one.

The alcoholics themselves can become acutely aware that they are drowning in drink and still don’t feel the need or have the willpower to get help. For them, the battle to give up liquor has too many side effects, and it’s too hard to combat the habit, especially if this life-style has been going on for years.
It’s a struggle every day for an alcoholic to just get out of bed. Many spend their days sleeping. They skip meals because their appetite has disappeared, thereby causing more damage to their health because their bodies breakdown from lack of proper nutrition to keep them stable.

Many alcoholics who have tried to fight the disease don’t relish the unpleasant physical effects of going without a drink; instead, they give in and turn back to drinking. In their mind, taking a drink is the only way to stop the effects of withdrawal. They fear going to any public place, and the drinking imprisons them in their own home behind closed doors.

Their lives and minds are constantly in a confused state. Alcoholics live in uncertainty that immobilizes them. They find it hard to do anything for themselves or their families. All confidence disappears. They make up all kinds of stories in order to avoid doing anything that makes them uncomfortable.
Doctors’ appointments are cancelled because they fear what they may be told. Family events are ignored so they don’t have to hear about their behavior or their broken promises. They live in denial that they have any problem at all and believe they can stop drinking at any time.

Getting sober for an alcoholic means they’ll have to take the giant step of signing themselves into a detoxification center. There, they’ll experience what they feared: the shakes, being confined, and taking medicine that will make them feel worse before they get better. They’re subjected to answering personal, embarrassing questions and being cooped-up in a single room with strangers, whom they consider to be sicker than they are.

After weeks or months of drying out, they’re pushed into the outside world again to face the same problems that brought them there. Depending on circumstances, they’ll have to confront the people that they hurt, deal with job hunting, and return to having the responsibility of making family decisions. Some become paranoid, thinking that everyone is judging them and watching their every move to see if they slip. Some probably are being watched because the whole family becomes sick and confused from the disease.

If they don’t continue to seek professional counseling after being rehabilitated, join an AA group, or find a sponsor, most alcoholics go right back to the bottle, which is always there to comfort them with no condemnation.
Going back to drinking, or falling off the wagon as the expression goes, doesn’t mean that they want to—it means they’re sick. Alcoholism is a disease that is highly hereditary. It would be so much easier if drinking could be cured by simply taking a pill. The first step to recovery for the alcoholic is for him or her to want the help. No one can help them if they don’t want recovery.

Alcoholics have the same wants and dreams as the rest of us. There was a time when they held a job, had a marriage, brought up children, owned a home and a car, and had a social life with their friends and families. Now, they have become frightened human beings who have lost their dignity.

Alcoholism doesn’t happen overnight. The reality of their lives being out-of- control came when catastrophes started to happen all around them. Some drinkers are fortunate to be able to keep their lives fairly normal, but others don’t realize it’s a problem until they lose everything.

Society needs to stop looking at the millions of alcoholics as bums or low-class individuals who don’t want to better themselves. They have a disease that can reach the point of no return.

If a person has been drinking for years and wants to stop, the body may have reached the point where it needs the drink. The body craves it; then there’s no stopping.

Someone Stop This Merry-Go-Round is based on the true story of my life living with and losing a husband to alcoholism. Slowly, our happy lives as a secure family started to fall to pieces at different stages. It seems completely incomprehensible to me on how I missed so many signs.

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Alberta Sequeira
Email: alberta.sequeira@gmail.com
Website: www.albertasequeira.wordpress.com
Purchase books at www.amazon.com/author/albertasequeira

Reaching the Addicted with Sheriff Thomas Hodgson

May 14, 2018

2018 - ALBERTA AND SHERIFF PHOTO

https://vimeo.com/254517198

This is my interview with Sheriff Thomas Hodgson from The Bristol County Correctional office at 400 Faunce Corner, North Dartmouth, Massachusetts. The first half hour is about my life with the last half hour talking to the women inmates at the jail.

I can be reached at: alberta.sequeira@gmail.com
My website for the addicted with choices is: www.albertasequeira.wordpress.com
For my writers and followers to become authors: www.albertasequeira.org

Purchase my books at www.amazon.com/author/albertasequeira

Need a Speaker?

December 10, 2017

Speaker

SESSION KEY-NOTES FOR TALKS


”The Effect of Alcoholism on the Whole Family”

* The devastating toll of alcoholism on the family
* The self-destruction of the addict
* For those looking for strength from their own alcoholic-driven problems
* The enabling
* Blackouts/physical and emotional abuse
* Denial
* Protecting the children
* Breakdowns
* Feelings of hopelessness
* Communication in the marriage
* Professional help
* Separation or divorce
* Ignoring the signs of teenage drinking
* Hidden emotional problems with the children
* Taking time to listen and communicate with your teen
* Giving complete support
* Being involved in their counseling, doctor’s appointments and recovery program

“My Spiritual Changes Within”

* Focus on relationships with our loved ones
* Strengthening your belief in your faith
* Tours to Medjugorje/spiritual renewals
* Alberta’s spiritual experience in Medjugorje
* The secrets Our Lady is giving the visionaries
* Description of the apparitions
* The importance of Confession
* Miracles all around us
* Awareness of God in our lives
* Alberta encourages us to examine our life
* Recognize the value of thankfulness
* Saying goodbye to our loved ones
* Renew the joy in life



”Where am I Heading?”
(School Program)

* The introduction to alcohol and drugs
* Signs of alcohol abuse
* Following the crowd
* Binge drinking
* Hereditary or a disease
* Habit, action, location, ​and friends
* Facing your family and school problems
* Recovery programs
* Breaking from the drinking and drug friends
* Getting on with life
* The reality of Cirrhosis of the Liver

**Alberta is willing to talk on any topic you may want for your event. She would love to discuss what would be the best fit. Please feel free to send questions to alberta.sequeira@gmail.com

Visit her website at http://www.albertasequeira.wordpress.com

References from the Bristol Correction Office at Faunce Corner Road in North Dartmouth, MA:
1. Rui M. Lima, MA, MSW, LICSW, Director of Substance Abuse & Social Servies Programs & Treatment: Telephone: 508-995-6400 ext. 2821
2. Matthew Robitaille, Director of Classification and Programs​; Telephone: 508-995-6400 ext. 2504

Email me for a quote: alberta.sequeira@gmail.com

My books on alcohol abuse can be purchased at www.amazon.com/author/albertasequeira
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Visit my Blog for Writers

October 6, 2017

New AWB Membership Picture

Authors Without Borders: Left to right, Joyce Keller Walsh, Alberta Sequeira, ​Willie Pleasants, and Pat Perry.

NB Book Festival

I started a blog for our group Authors Without Borders, which four of us are co-founders. We have members and all information about us is at www.authorswithoutborders.wordpress.com. Love to hear from you. Our main site is www.awb6.com. Learn who we are. Email us with any questions at authorswb6@gmail.com

We’re in the process of thinking about podcasts. We have our own NBTV-95 Cable TV show out of New Bedford, MA where we interview authors and anyone in the publishing world.

Alberta Sequeira

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