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Getting out of Denial

March 23, 2017


One key symptom of alcoholism is that the individual comes to need a drink for every mood–one to calm down, one to perk up, one to celebrate, one to deal with disappointment, and so on.
PHYLLIS A. BALCH, Prescription for Herbal Healing

Loss of Confidence from the Alcoholic or addict

December 14, 2015


Substance abuse makes every member of the family feel the guilt. Parents loss the desire to find ways to help our loved one drowning in their habit, heading toward death. We say things we really don’t mean because we fear losing them. If they die from their addiction, we live with guilt until our own death.

The sibling gets confused with guilt on how to help their brother/sister. Some go as far as getting into the gang who are alcoholic or drug users trying to understand why they are doing the things that are killing them.

The substance abuser lives with guilt from wanting to quit and going back to it. They see the disappointed looks in their parents and carry guilt over hurting them. They get angry that their siblings are not involved in using and think they are above them.

This circle goes around and around with no answers. Everyone is left mentally and physically sick. It is a family disease. Each and everyone of us needs professional help separately and together.

Not doing it together doesn’t give the drinker or non-drinker a voice on what they need to survive. We need to hear what the other one wants or needs to pull through this nightmare.

That’s why I had 34 alcoholic and drug users give their stories on all these topics in What is and isn’t Working for the Alcoholic or Addict.

Alberta Sequeira

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Daily Meditations From the A. A. Book: Twenty-Four Hours a Day

September 25, 2013

God holding a man

You are never alone with your struggles with addiction with God beside you!

All thoughts, meditations and prayers for the day, come from the 1975 edition of Twenty-Four Hours a Day published by Hazelden Publishing. It is a small booklet written for AA members.

“The Serenity Prayer”

God grant me the serenity

To accept the things I cannot change,

The courage to change the things I can,

and the wisdom to know the difference. 

Thought for the Day

Another of the mottoes of A.A. is “Live and let live.” This of course means tolerance of people who think differently than we do, whether they are in A.A. or outside of A.A. We cannot afford the luxury of being intolerant or critical of other people. We do not try to impose our wills on those who differ from us. We are not “holier than thou.” We do not have all the answers. We are not better than other good people. We live the best way we can and we allow others to do likewise. Am I willing to live and let live?”

Meditation for the Day

“And this is life eternal, that we may know Thee, the only true God.” Learning to know God as best you can draws the eternal life nearer to you. Freed from some of the limitations of humanity, you can grow in the things that are eternal. You can strive for what is real and of eternal value. The more you try to live in the conscience of the Unseen world, the gentler will be your passing into it when the time comes for you to go. This life on earth should be largely a preparation for the eternal like to come.

Prayer for the Day

I pray that I may live each day as though it were my last. I pray that I may live my life as thought it were everlasting.

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