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Choices with Drinking and Drugs

June 11, 2017

Wrong Way Sign

Choices. It’s still a powerful word for every person around the world. Those choices make us into what we become in adulthood.

I believe there are three reasons someone gets caught up in​ alcohol or drug abuse.

1. It is highly hereditary. In my past family I had married into, YES! My husband’s mother, sister, brother (his three children) and my daughter, Lori. It trickled down to past generations.

2. An excuse to follow the crowd, after all, everyone is doing it. What’s the harm? I can quit anytime. If my family got off my back, it wouldn’t be a problem. Who am I hurting? It helps me function. EXCUSES!

3. This one I think should be number one. Something happened to you at a young age that you can’t talk about or handle yourself. Sexual abuse I would say is the number sadness that is bestowed on a child of innocence.

Here is my advice to all of you suffering from mental or physical abuse from the past…..hold your heads up high. You have nothing to be ashamed of and it wasn’t your fault. The person who did this to you is sicker than you.

Ask God to help you forgive this person. Yes, forgive. It’s not easy. Why do I say this? Because if you can’t forgive, you stay stuck. If you stay stuck, you can’t recover. This anger and hatred eat​ at the heart of your soul. You don’t have to stay in this person’s life.

Think of it…the person may not even know you are mad at them or knows ​and doesn’t care. Don’t let this person take your future of health and happiness away from you.

Cling to your counselor, a sponsor, or a friend who wants sobriety as much as you do. Want recovery more than life itself.

If you need someone to tell you that you can do this, well, here I am. YOU CAN!

Choices when the invitation goes out to parties, or especially Christmas time and New Years, to join them. When you walk into the person selling the drugs, you have to STOP….think for a second, and remember CHOICES. They are yours. You own them.

Family can only love and support you. This is your battle to come out of addiction.

Last advice? Pray to God for help, even if you don’t believe. He already knows that. Ask Him to show you the way into opening your heart for Him to enter it. Prayer is talking to God. Reach out to Him. The answer may not come when you want it or how, but it will be in His time and way.

Believe in yourself and have faith in God.

Alberta Sequeira

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What would I change?

May 27, 2017

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What would I change after losing my husband, Richie and my daughter, Lori, from their alcohol and drug abuse? I’ve been asked that question numerous times.

I would have let the wash wait until I had a cup of coffee to ask Richie and Lori how their day went the night before. Who were they with? Did anything unusual happen?

I would have taken the time to ask them to sit down calmly the next day of them walking in late and talked about what the family went through with them coming home in a blackout. Talking about Richie’s actions bringing fear and confusion into the family, especially his two young daughters. I would have mentioned the abuse he was starting on with me. No fights or yelling talking to him. Showing my love wanting to help him.

Last, I would have made demands when the problem started and he showed no desire to get professional help. If the family does not do that, innocently, we drag the substance abuser deeper into their addiction.

So, my advice is to try listening and talking. Don’t break communication or the demon will win.

Alberta Sequeira
Email: alberta.sequeira@gmail.com
Website CHOICES: http://www.albertasequeira.wordpress.com

Words for Support

March 29, 2017

Don't give up the dream

Men and Women in Jail Cells

December 14, 2015

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I will be meeting Wednesday, November 29th, to talk at the Bristol County Jail in Dartmouth, Massachusetts to share my story of losing my husband, Richard, and my daughter, Lori from their alcohol and drug abuse to their inmates.

Alberta Sequeira

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Daily Meditations From the A. A. Book: Twenty-Four Hours a Day

September 25, 2013

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You are never alone with your struggles with addiction with God beside you!

All thoughts, meditations and prayers for the day, come from the 1975 edition of Twenty-Four Hours a Day published by Hazelden Publishing. It is a small booklet written for AA members.

“The Serenity Prayer”

God grant me the serenity

To accept the things I cannot change,

The courage to change the things I can,

and the wisdom to know the difference. 

Thought for the Day

I am part of A.A., one among many, but I am one. I need the A.A. principles for the development of the buried life within me. A.A. may be human in its organization, but it is Divine in its purpose. The purpose is to point me toward God and a better life. Participating in the privilege of the movement, I shall share in the responsibilities, taking it upon myself to carry my fair share of the load, not grudgingly but joyful. To the extent that I fail in my responsibilities, A.A. fails. To the extent that I succeed, A.A. succeeds. Do I accept this as my A.A. credo?

Meditation for the Day

“Praise the Lord.” What does praising God mean? It means being grateful for all the wonderful things in the universe and for all the blessings in your life. So praise God by being grateful and humble. Praise of this kind has more power to vanquish evil and humble person who is always praising God, is not tempted to do wrong. You will have a feeling of security because you known that fundamentally all is well. So look up to God and praise Him.

Prayer for the Day

I pray that I may be grateful for all my blessings. I pray that I may be humble because I know that I do not deserve them.